parenthood training

Net and I had a taste of parenthood on last sat morning. Mummy has to work that sat and daddy is fetching her there, max and sis are having a rendevous night out at a secret hotel they dun wanna tell us. So Net and I have to take care of Ace while the rest of the family are away.


Ace woke up at 5.30am. Mummy left work at 7. So only ace, net and me were left in the house. Both net and I were tired. But ace was energetic. We tried to rock him, bluff him to sleep but didn't work. In the end we just left him in our room and we slept. I slept on the inner side or the bed that is facing the wall and poor net was on the outside, so ace took his magna doodle and asked net to draw something every 5 mins or so. Or he would take something from the table and pass it to net.


At 9+, daddy came back. And we were relieved, but only for a short while. We were sleeping happily with no disturbance when we were suddenly woken by daddy screaming: EEEEEEE... 大便!! Ace 臭臭!! 快点去找 ah yee!! And I was like “$%^&#^!! Why must look for me?!?!?!” So we were woken up again and daddy insists that I have to wash up ace because he is going marketing and left. So net, me and a smelly ace were left in the house again.


So I had to bring ace to bath and net took off his clothes and diapers. And ace’s shit is damn smelly. And because most of the time he don't really chew his food well, we can see bits of undigested food in his shit. YUCKS!! So it took both of us, both net and I to bathe ace. Basically net was holding on to ace so that he dun run around and I was the one doing the dirty job of wiping the shit away, cleaning his ass. My first time cleaning shit was given to ace... Boo hoo hoo. After bathing him, we changed him and decided to bring him out for some breakfast.


We went to parkway and had BK breakfast. Basically ace was quite 乖 that day. He did not ask us to carry him when we put him down and told him he has to walk and he gladly gave us his hand to 拉拉. Sometimes he even insisted that both of us held his hands when we walk. After breakfast, we bought him to a big pet shop at marine parade and he was happy to see so many fishes and small animals.


ace learning to use the fork n knife...


He will point to the fishes and say: fish
he sees the puppy labrador, he points to the glass and say: dog dog... Woof woof
He sees the rabbit drinking water and he says: rabbit 喝水
He sees the rabbit sleeping and he says: rabbit ooi ooi
He sees the ginue pig and say: cat cat. Meow meow.


Haha. After the pet shop, we passed by a playground with lots of kids playing and so we decided to let him play there for a while. I think ace is very happy to see so many little children he ran here, ran there and shouted. After sometime, we decided it was getting late and time to go home. Once in the car, he slept soundly all the way home. We guessed he must be very tired since he woke up so early and walked so much. But the moment he reached home and I placed him on the mattress, he woke up jumped around again. But by then, daddy, grandma were home so we sort of handed him back to them. Keke.


i am king of the playground!!!


Just a morning with ace and both of us were shagged out. Net told me at night that his arms were aching from carrying ace. Haha. Its really not easy bringing a toddler out cos you have to be very alert and on your toes and make sure u can catch up with them when they suddenly run off. You have to think of ways to entertain them so that they sit quietly on the chair while you eat, you have to make sure they don't fall or get pushed or knocked by other kids while at the playground. Similarly, you also have to make sure that they will not push or knock other kids, or worse, fight with other kids for the swing or something.


And I realised that when I brought ace out, I didn't prepare any extra pampers, I didn't bring any jacket (he was wearing a singlet and we were at a shopping centre and the air con is quite cold. Im not sure if he is cold. But I guess not :p). But all in all I think its good training.


When the 3 of us are walking, net told me that a lot of people looking at us. I told him they must have thought that ace is our son. Net said: but he don't look like me at all mah. me: that's y they look mah!! Kekeke.


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oh ya, HAPPY CHILDREN'S DAY TO ALL WHO THINK YOU ARE STILL YOUNG OUT THERE... ;)

thankfully for POV

If we have not met POV, I would have threw my ring back at him and ran off last night... At least that's what I will do in the past...


But because we understood what is happening is a reflection of our inner self, what we are feeling is to cover our fear, I am able to feel my feelings, and feel his feelings and together, we took a step forward towards interdependence, towards oneness.


Thanks, POV... I know this is god’s way of letting me discover the fear in me so I can heal myself. And I am grateful. :)


And I love you, baby... I re-choose you again, and commit myself to love you unconditionally.

Thanks Zhiqing

Last weekend was Zhiqing’s 2 days POV workshop. During the last POV by Hiromi Senseh, during one of the processes involving a husband and wife, I made a decision that I want to bring daddy and mummy to attend POV. I discussed with sis, and we decided to bring them for Zhiqing’s POV. And we were so glad we did.



the Peng family @ POV....

Daddy and mummy is not what I will term a loving couple. Though i’ve never seen them quarrel before, in these 27 years of my life, I’ve never seen them hold hands, hug or say I love you to each other. When they go out together, usually one of them will walk in front and the other behind.


And during that 2 days POV, for the first time in my life,

I hear daddy calling mummy 老婆

I hear mummy calling daddy 老公

I hear daddy saying “I LOVE YOU” to mummy

I hear mummy saying “I LOVE YOU” back to daddy

I see them holding hands.

I see them hugging each other.



mummy looking very 幸福小女人


I guess sis was just as touched and happy as I am to witness all these. And initially we thought daddy will be bored during the workshop but he looks so happy during the 2 days and even participated in all the activities actively with his small group and buddy.


I am happy. Very happy. The money spent on their course fees is worth every single cent. Thanks, Zhiqing. Both me and sis (read sis’s view of the POV here) are very grateful to you.


You know, its like this...


As children, the best thing you can do to make your parents happy is to lead a happy life. Its not how much we are earning, its not how many degrees we have, its not how high we climbed in our career. At the end of the day, nothing can make our parents more happy knowing their child is happy.


And as parents, the best way to let your children lead a happy life is to be happy!! When we as children see that you are happy, we will be happy too.


So u see, its a cycle.... Children happy --> parents happy --> children happy. So whether you are a parent or a children or both, you know what you should do... :)

W.H.Y

“I need to think why you always make me angry”


I have always been thinking why do I want people to attack me? why do I want people to be angry with me? Why do I want people to make me angry?


Now im thinking why do I want to self attack??


Later.


I need to drown myself in loud music.

updates

I know I haven been updating for the longest time... But I have a good reason to be bz...


I have been bz at work (my project is in a mess), and bz with the preparations for my big day!!


And we have confirmed our banquet location and bridal salon!! Im so happy cos I am so so happy cos I think our ballroom is very pretty with a long long march in and I love the gowns from my bridal salon. Am going to have a gown with a long train so that it’ll look nice with my long march in.


Strange it seems, one week after Jeff’s POV we settled everything (except the ROM location cause waiting for them to get back to me on the food). We filed our marriage notice, found our solemnizer within a mere 5 mins (while I read online that some couples had a hard time finding a solemnizer and some even pre booked their solemnizers about 6 mths to 12 mths before their ROM date!!), settled our banquet location, and settled our bridal package, much to net and my surprise. We only visited 2 bridal salons (bs) and made our decision. Initially both net and I thought that we will visit at least 5 salons in order to make a decision but things just happens so smoothly. R recommended us to 1 of the bs along tanjong pagar. We made appointment with the bs and we reached tanjong pagar early and when I called the bs, the person told me I can take my time and best if I can arrive later. I think she was attending to another customer.


Since we were there early, I saw the bs that I aimed in the bridal magazine. So I told net and sis to take a look there. Happens so that when we entered, sis saw her old friend, the designer for her wedding gown and we began talking. I tried some gowns and we were offered quite a good package. But because we already made appointment with the other BS, we went there to see what they had to offer. Net didn't really like the feel of the BS and we didn't really like their photography. So we went back to the first BS and made our payment. And that's it!! My BS is settled!! And I think we had quite a good deal plus the gowns from our BS is known to be very pretty. :)


Ive been bz with my wedding preparations since aug but no progress at all. And just 1 week after Jeff’s POV, everything is settled. Even what we thought would be the biggest headache was settled in less than 3 hrs. amazing! Reminds me of Veron’s story of how she started Growth Vision. Initially she was undecided whether she wanted to start Growth Vision. But after attending Jeff’s workshop, she made up her mind and settled everything (printed the brochures, found the office, started a corporate account etc) within 3 days. Of course our story cant be compared to hers, but still its amazing how things just goes so smoothly.


So now I am waiting patiently for our hotel to call for our invitation cards and our BS to call for me to choose my ROM dress and to do my gown designing. I am very excited but there is nothing I can do now but wait and start losing weight and looking pretty for my big day and start searching for designs of gowns that I like. :)