Our ROM

Finally finished my ROM post... :)

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So... The big day we’ve been waiting for is over... Actually not exactly true... After our ROM there is a bigger event, which is the day we will hold our customary ceremony and have our wedding dinner. Guess we’ll take a break for now to enjoy the festives before we gear ourselves up for the BIGGER DAY preparations... :)


12 December 2007... In POV, the number 12 signifies grace, and so 12 12 signifies double grace. :)


The night before, I went to do manicure and pedicure straight after work. And believe it or not, that was the first time I did mani and pedi. I was so paisay when the manicurist asked me: you didn't do manicure for a very long time already issit? In the end I did french manicure for my hands and normal pedicure for my feet. I would say that they did a decent job on my nails but I wont patronise them if I ever wanted to do my nails again. I waited a long time for net to come pick me up, as well as for my nails to dry. Luckily FF and sally were there to keep me company. And FF bought a 1.5kg strawberry cheesecake from marriot for me. So sweet of her. Thanks, babe.


After net came, we rushed to the airport to pick max up. Yes, max is finally back after 2 mths in the middle east. And after that we went back home to prepare for the following day. Mummy was so happy when she heard there was cheesecake. We sort of had a mini celebration, net and my ROM and max’s return. :)


happy ROM to net and me... :D
note the writing on the white chocolate... guess who wrote it?? keke


The actual day (12 Dec): I woke up at 7 in the morning (even earlier than when I need to work) to call a vendor from US. And after that despite trying to fall into lumber land again, I am just unsuccessful. So I decided to start packing for my ROM. :)


At about 10.45, net came. We went to collect our hand bouquet, which is very pretty. When annie (the florist) told us how she will design our bouquet, I couldn't visualise what she was going to do and was a little worried that the outcome will not be nice. But how wrong was I. She has given me exactly what I wanted!! A small simple yet beautiful bouquet that can match my flowy yellow dress. :)


my lovely bouquet of flowers...


The weather that day was drizzling. It was drizzling all the way from my place to our BS. Net says drizzling is good cos rain = water. But not too big rain else it will spoil people’s mood. So a drizzle is good. When we reached our BS, our make up artist was busy with another couple, so I went to change into my dress first while waiting patiently for my turn to make up. My make up artist was a guy. This is the first time a guy will be doing make up for me. I was a little doubtful initially as I didn't read much comments on him on the forum. But he turned out to be very good, and very 细心. Jes (my was there to see how he made me up and gave comments like what hairstyle suits me better. Initially he wanted to bun up my hair but jes said that I will look nicer if my hair is in curls. It matches my dress better. So he curled up my hair again.


in the process of styling up my hair... :)


As I only began my make up late (as we were waiting for the elson to finish the couple before us), by the time we were done, it was already 1.30. By then EQ and kiwi have called us several times asking what time we will be there, the guests have already arrived, which made me so kan jeong. By the time we arrived at RTC, think 80% of our guests arrived liao. Haha. I told net we must be the only couple that the guests arrived before the hosts. Luckily our solemnizer has not arrived.


So we hurriedly took out the guest book and did some coordinating (which wasn't much cos our good bro kiwi has already helped us settle most of the stuffs) with the RTC staffs on the music and the marching in. about 10 mins later, our solemnizer, mr phang arrived. And soon our solemnization ceremony began... :)


I’ve been to a couple of ROM ceremonies and by far, I think net and my solemnization is the shortest. Within 5 mins, all was done. Short and sweet. We were not asked to stand up, face each other and pledge to each other, and no kiss the bride too. Haha. Anyway, I think our solemnizer also made the whole ceremony very light hearted and memorable in a way, caused his pronounciation cannot make it. Especially when prouncing net and my name. Was so funny we were giggling throughout the ceremony. Keke.


giggle giggle... :)


After our ceremony, was picture taking time. Pictures after pictures. I told someone (I cant remember who), I felt like a star and her reply was: today, u are the star. :) the food at RTC was nicer than we expected. Thumbs up for the apple crumble, potato salad, and the mushroom pie thingy (gerald had 5 of them!!). The brownie sucks but the rest of the food were quite alright. We didn't eat much during the buffet and by the time we really had the chance to eat the food sent to our room, the food was cold. :( I stood so much my poor feet were aching terribly in my 4in heels at the end of the day. Luckily I can soak them in the jacuzzi pool.


Yep, net upgraded our room to a jacuzzi suite. So we have a jacuzzi pool and sauna room in our room. In order not to “waste” the jacuzzi and sauna, I actually woke net up in the middle of the night at 2am to go sauna then jacuzzi then sauna then jacuzzi all the way till 4am. Net regretted so much that he said he will never book a jacuzzi room again. Keke.


me by the pool... :)


Night time, we watched the movie enchanted at cineleisure. It was a very romantic, full of love movie. A very suitable movie to watch right after getting married. Keke.


We woke up early the next day to use the jacuzzi pool again. Keke. After settling the bill with RTC, we went to DG to return our ROM dress and suit, then its off to orchard for my birthday present shopping!! We shopped a total of about 6 hrs. we went LV (at taka), Coach, Gucci, Fendi, Dior and finally LV at hilton. And I finally decided on a dusty shimmer pink gucci wallet and a LV bag . Oh ya, and the service at hilton was so so much better than the service at taka. Was over my budget a little but my paymaster says OK. Keke. i felt so happy, so abundant. I never am willing to spend so much to get a bag or wallet for myself before. My poor legs were screaming that I abused them again.


it was love at first sight with this wallet... the moment i saw it on the display window, i knew im gonna get it... :)


and my LV bag... took me a long long time to decide on this eventually... cos cant decide whether i want the damier, or epi leather, 25 or 30... keke...

We ended the day with dinner at mr beans (my treat to my hubby... Keke) and then went to collect our ROM photos from eric, our photographer. :)


And this is the special day of my life, where I became mrs sze. :)



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And many thanks to all of you who has given us your blessings and well wishes... thanks thanks... :)

p/s: all pics of my ROM are on my multiply... :)

Merry Xmas

merry merry xmas, my dear friends...

may all your wishes come true!! :)



im still halfway through writing my ROM post... i know its about 2 weeks since my ROM but am really tied up lately, and its a long long post... i wanna take my time to write it so i dun miss any details... :)

8 days...

Yes I know its been uber long time since I’ve updated my blog.


Hmmm... Just don't have the mood to blog or do anything. Keke. I guess im in the wedding/holiday mood. Keke. Cant imagine, 8 days later, I will be considered by the laws of Singapore, married. I can no longer classify myself as “single” when filing the maritial status in forms. I will have to move from YWD (Young Women Division) to WD (Women Division). I will be termed Mdm Peng or Mrs Sze (both sounds so old). And instead of my life, my ups, my downs, my dreams, my vision, my goals, they become our life, our ups, our downs, our dreams, our vision, our goals. :)


Till now, our ROM preparations have been smooth sailing. I have chosen my ROM dress. Initially I wanted a white or off white short gown but in the end I’ll be wearing a yellow flowy dress, which is very special and sexy. Keke. Will be going for fitting this Friday. Will try to see if I can take some pics. But then again, I think I want to keep some suspense so that everyone will WAH when they see me on that day itself. Initial impact ya know? ;)


Flowers are more or less settled. Called the florists to confirm our order just now. It will be a bouquet of white roses and urm cant remember wats the name of that flower with babys breath. Have requested for golden ribbons to match my gold coloured shoes. Am going down to the florist to choose the ribbons on thurs. :)


Found my perfect pair of shoes as well, at aldo. Perfect pair of strappies with “diamonds” coupled with the perfect thin silletoes with the perfect height (think its 4in tall). Though they don't have my size in silver and that's why I have to settle for the gold ones. But net and I think that gold matches my dress quite nicely too. :)

the perfect shoes... :)


Everything at the our solemnization venue has been confirmed, and the person in charge has been most kind. Initially I was kind of worried the actual turn out was more than what we budgeted for and the room we booked might not be able to fit. But now all have been settled and im glad that so many people are coming to give us their blessings!! I feel so loved that so many people are coming to shower us with their blessings. What more can I ask for? :) and Max will be back in time for my ROM as well and also my dearest “ka chng” (cousin) flying back australia with her 3 precious princesses the day before my ROM. So she will be coming too!! :) :)


8 more days.. in anticipation...

The ONE

Net and I dated for about 7 mths before he proposed to me and this dec, we will be together for 1 year. When I disclosed news that im getting married, many of my friends were surprised that we are planning marriage so soon. I always tell them: you don't need 2-3 years to know if the person is the one for you. if he/she is not the one, even if you are together for years doesn't make a difference cause he/she still will not be the one you want. If a person will change for you, he/she will do so within the first few months. If he/she is not willing, they will still be the same after 10 years.


But how to know if your partner is the one? When I went for Hanxuan 老师’s POV, a couple told me that they wanted to know if their partner is the one for them. And that's when I realised how do we know if our partner is the one for us. In the past when someone asked me how do I know if net is the one? I told them, you will just know. You will feel it. I couldn't put it better in words then, but now I do.


How do I know that net is the one??
Well, actually I do not know. When we first started, I wasn't even sure if I wanted a committed relationship. After getting in and out of the love game (I broke several hearts, and my heart was broken several times as well), I was really tired of having to go through the process of having to get to know someone, then realised that he is not what I expected to be, and all the quarrels and finally the break up. Net’s entrance into my life is actually totally unexpected cause the last thing I wanted back then was to get myself trapped with yet another relationship. Though I was happy when I was with him, but at the back of my mind I was always thinking: are we going to work out? Is he serious about me? Should I be committed or should I treat this as a non committal relationship? Hence, I didn't even dare to introduce him as my bf. When he sent me off to the airport, I introduced him as my “friend”.


With these questions in mind, I went to Taiwan for my 1st POV with Hanxuan老师. During one of the group exercises, I shared with my group that I think a relationship is a hindrance and will trap me of my freedom and time. I also shared that I don't know whether Net is the one for me. My group leader told me that I first have to make a commitment to the truth, to Net, to true love. And when I am committed, when I get back to Singapore, I will find my true love waiting for me, the person may or may not be net. If net is not the one, then my true love will appear. But I first have to have the willingness to make a commitment. And at the same time, I will not be trapped by the relationship. Instead, I will enjoy true freedom. I also realised why I never had happy relationships in the past because I have fear of intimacy, fear of commitment and lack of self worth. So when my relationship gets too good, or too close for comfort, I will do something to destroy it cause I feel im not good enough and to keep a safe distance.


And how true it is. When I came back to Singapore, I somehow just knew that Net is the true love for me, the one for me. In net’s words, he felt I wasn't committed to the relationship before I went Taiwan, but he decided to give me some time. And when I came back from Taiwan, he felt so much love from me, and that was when he felt that I was truly committed to the relationship. :)


If not for POV, I think I wouldn't dare to commit to him and eventually he will leave me cause he don't feel my commitment, or we will end up as flings. Haha.


So how do we know if our bf/gf is the one for us? First, we have to commit ourselves to the relationship. Do not expect your partner to commit first. We have to first commit. He/she will feel the difference when you are committed and if they are the one, they will commit too. If not, then the 2 of you will part on a good note, and your true love will come eventually. :)


For net and I, I think most importantly, we are both committed to our own healing and like with this, I am not afraid of anything that comes our way because no matter what big storm or big wave approaches us, we know all we need to do is to search within ourselves and heal. :)

Halloween

Nowadays when im bored, i like to take pictures on my hp and then add funny effects using the PhotoDJ application in my phone.


Since today is halloween, let me present some halloween pictures for your viewing pleasure...



me the kitty...



ace the prince of pirates



sis the angel...


and lastly,



max the mama shop owner...


HAHAHAHA....


HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!

hair

I got so sick of my long hair lately. If not for my big day, I would have snapped them off already. So most probably you will see me with long hair for another 6 mths and then its bye goldilocks.



bye bye long hair...


I already can imagine how light my head will feel. Maybe I’ll get an instant 1-2kgs weight lost. Haha.
And all the shampoo, conditioner, hair mask, treatment, water, time and money i’d spend to buy hair accessories I’ll save with short hair. ABUNDANCE!! And I no longer have stay up at night to wait for my hair to dry. I miss my short haired days. I’ve been keeping my hair long since 2001 which means ive been having long hair for 6 years le. Its time for change!!



i'll probably look something like this with short hair...


The other day I was asking net if he did think about how his wife will look like before and how much do I match his imagination. He said he imagined his wife to have long hiar, big eyes and all so I am quite a close match. So I’ll fulfill his dream of wedding a long hair wife... But only on the wedding day itself. Hahaha.

counting down

Less than 2 months to my ROM... How exactly do I feel now??

Nervous?? - Not really
Excited?? - a little
Looking forward?? - Yes, very much. Not so much of looking forward to the ROM reception itself as ours is going to be a simple affair but more of looking forward to life being mrs net officially... :)


Most of our preparation for our ROM is more or less done, so now all I need to do is to wait patiently and make myself pretty on the day itself. :) lets see...

Wedding bands (checked)
ROM venue (checked)
Solemnizer (checked. Mental note: remind net to call mr phang again nearer our date)
Invites (via sms or by mouth. Thinking if we should get some proper invitation cards... Checked)
Outfit for the bride (waiting for my BS to ask me down to choose my dress, which should happen next mth. Checked)
Outfit for the groom (dunno wat he wanna wear. But guys easy to decide de. So shouldn't be a problem)
Ring pillow (we have one from Lee Hwa which is complimentary when we bought our bands. But I find that pillow a bit ugly. Thinking of whether to get a new one)
Bridal bouquet (will settle that probably one week before the actual day)
Outfit for the parents (will go shopping with mummy one of these days. Probably wait till dec when all the sales started)
Photographer (still thinking if we want to get one. Otherwise will get sis to take pics for me. Anyone out there know any photographer who is cheap and good??)
Meet the parents session (planning in progress)

I think this should be all we need for our ROM right?? Hmmmm... Counting down... 54 days to go. :)

bizarre

was woken up by the sound of the alarm at 5.30 this morning. i was in the middle of some very bizarre dream but boy, it felt so real. so bizarre and real that i remembered thinking in my dream the happenings of the past few days to justify that the scenario in the dream couldnt be happening.


i woke up feeling strange and realized the space beside me. where is he? i got out of bed and went around the house. he's not in the bathroom. i took a peek at the carpark, his car was gone. i went back to bed thinking where is he. has he left or maybe he wasnt even around in the first place. maybe i went to bed alone yesterday. the realness of the dream has made me confuse with what is reality at that moment. i felt as though i have woken up into another dimension, where all we knew is untrue, which reminds me when i was young, whenever im unhappy, i'd go sleep and hope that when i wake up the following morning, i'd be in a different time space and all the unhappyness is just an illusion. but of course i never succeeded.


instinctively, i reached for my 4th finger. the ring is still there. i looked at the far left of the room, the bouquet of flowers is still there as well. so im not in dreamland after all and im not in a different dimension as well.


slowly, i climbed back to bed and snuggled myself under the blanket and tried to get back to sleep again...

the story of net and clari...

Last night, net and I were discussing about our relationship 10 years ago. Yes, as many of you may have known, we dated once in 1996, when we were still donning BDS uniforms... Every time we talked about our relationship then, we’d laugh. Sometimes we think that god up there is playing a trick on us and decided to let us go one big round before we found each other again. But no matter what, we thanked god for letting us meet again. We thanked god for putting us through all the ordeals we went through in the past 10 years so that we will be ready for each other when we meet again. We thanked god for letting us meet at the right time. Had we met 1/2 a year earlier, I think non of us would be ready to commit in a relationship. :)


Most of our sec sch friends will already know our story. one of net’s friend, after hearing our story, commented that it is like a romantic korean drama serial. So I have decided to document our story down, in as much details as I can remember... (warning: this is a long long post)


**way back into 1996, in the classroom of sec 4A of BDS**

1 week after the release of the ‘O’ level results, news has been spreading that our class might have some new students. Some ex-students might be coming back to re-study their O levels in school and will be posted to our class. And true enough, about a week later, we have 2 new classmates, bert and net.


Before they joined our class, I already knew the both of them by face and name but we never really spoke. Bert was because he stayed near me and I see him on the way to school every morning. Net was because he used to be a prefect and he was quite notorious then. Keke. :)


So they were in our class for a few months and I still seldom spoke to them especially net, cos we were sitting at different ends of the class. Didn't pay take too much interest in him as well until one day after school, EQ and I were at my place....


Me : I think my life is very dull and boring. Must find some excitement.
EQ : what excitement you want?
Me : I wanna find someone to 暗恋. The trills of secretly liking someone and trying to let the pereson be attracted to you. But who should I 暗恋??


So EQ and I went through a detail screening for a list of candidates that I can 暗恋.

EQ : what about net?? He is a good choice.
Me : Hmmmmm...


And so my project 暗恋 begun...

I started to find chances to talk to him more. During physics lessons (where he is sitting behind me), I’d pretend not to understand how to do the experiment or what Mr P was teaching and turn behind to ask him. EQ also at the same time helped me fished for his information (like was he attached at that time, his phone number). Sometimes we’d call him out on the pretext of studying for our prelims together.


Over time, what started out of fun became real and I was really infatuated with him. I remember there was one day I was at EQ’s place and I was flipping through a magazine and there were some features on wedding gowns.

Me : wah, so pretty!! I wanna get married!!
EQ : to who??
Me : 我要结婚了 but 不是嫁给你!!
EQ : haha. I know to who

I actually forgotten about the above scenario till recently, when I was flipping through the style wedding magazine with net, looking for a nice gown. And I smiled to myself thinking, all these must be pre destinied. :)


And so months later of trying to get him to notice me was successful! I remembered one fine day I was telling him that I wanted to go to the interchange to buy some furry hair ribbon (that was the trend then) after school and he offered to go with me!! And so off we went after school and he even sent me home after that. Was that our first date? I think so. And from there, gradually we became a couple, or we go steady. Hahaha. We’ll meet up to study for our ‘O’ levels together, and we’ll be on the phone every night. When I went 1st mths in SRJC and he started working, he would pick me from school whenever he can.


We were together for about 7 mths. We broke off just before we entered poly. And that was when we ceased contact of each other. Occasionally i’d hear news about him from some of our common friends but that is just it. Even when we bump into each other in poly, i’d pretend I didn't see him. And when we see each other in gatherings, the most we’d say: hi and bye.


Until Seng and Yilin’s ROM. We didn't speak to each other initially. It was only during lunch, we were seated at the same table, and we started chatting and suanning each other. Then the guys planned have a part 2 celebration that night at MOS. So in MOS, under the influence of alcohol, we chatted more and laughed more and played all the silly games. He initially wanted to go off halfway to join his friends at MOMO. I persuaded him to stay and he did. :) when we finally left the club, he offered to send us home. I was the last to drop off and before he left, we exchanged numbers.

Net : im having a headache
Me : are u ok? Still can drive? You should have gone home straight.
Net : no problem. :) sms me when u are home ok?
Me : I don't have your number.
Net : its 9XXXXXXX. Remember to sms me ah.
Me : see first lah. Anyway don't worrt lah. I more worried about you.
Net : you not giving me your number?? Though I still remember your house number.
Me : don't bluff.
Net : really. Its 6XXXXXXX right?
Me : my god. Ur memory is really good!! Ok, my number is 8XXXXXXX.


And with that, I left his car and we began to sms each other frequently till one day I asked if he has msn and we started msn-ing each other.


Then we went for our first date at marina for dinner, then to vivo city for movie. during the dinner, though the place we dined wasnt a vegetarian joint and he could have ate meat, he took vegetarian with me. after we finished the food, i went to the ladies and when i went back, he told me we can go anytime. i asked him to ask for the bill first and he told me he has settled the bill (which i felt is a very gentlemanly gesture). After the movie we chatted in his car all the way till 4am. 2nd date to hougang to eat ramen. Then he had to go australia for 1 mth. While he was there we chatted on msn almost everyday. Sometimes I’d purposely stay in office to wait for him to come online. Waiting for him to log on at 5+pm is like a daily activity. Till he was back in Singapore and because he was clearing his leave, he offered to send me around to run errands. 1st time was to tampines, where I tried to get my camera repaired at best denki. But because best couldn't do it and so I had to bring my cam to panasonic building. And so on the 21st Dec, I took half a day leave to run errands and he very kindly offered to be my chauffer for the day. We went around Singapore and not once did he complain. I just told him where I want to go and when I was busy with my errands, he just waited patiently. Sometimes I just asked him to wait for me and I dissapered and not a single word from him. Seriously, I was very touched. :)


After running around singapore for half a day, we were tired and decided to go catch a movie to rest our tired legs. After movie, we had dinner and he asked me to join him with his friends at clark quey. I was in 2 minds, but eventually agreed cos he said: if you come with me, I can tell them that you need to go off early and I need to send you home and we can leave early cos if I were to stay, they will make me drink alot.


So we went to the pub together and his friends were surprised (from the look on their faces I can tell) that he brought a lady along. They were playing games and drinking. We were sitting on the sofa and cos I dun want to sit so near his friend, I sat closer to him. And he placed his arm around me, as if to tell his friend not to get too close to me. Haha. When we left at around 1am, on the way to get the car, he held my hand. And the rest, like they say, is history.... :)




The end

achievements...

Last weekend, we were asked to write the numbers 1 to our current age (for me its 1 – 27) vertically, on a blank piece of paper. And then beside every number (age), we are supposed to write down our achievements, or anything that happened that made us happy or felt good. This was the first time I did an exercise like this and for the first 5 mins, I can only write 2-3 events. My mind was blank, I never achieve anything much in my whole life. Much less to say 1 for every year. That's tough. Even at the end of the exercise, most of my years were blank.


Seeing that how most of us had difficulty in doing the exercise, Yanni jie then told us that we are always so hard on ourselves. We feel that we will need to accomplish something very great in order for it to be considered an achievement. And we always forgotten all the good things that happened in our lives. But if we were to write all the bad things or mistakes we had in our lives every year we can write 3 pages long. Haha. How true. But in fact, every little thing that we achieved is an achievement!! (like dating 2 girls at one go... Well, that's an achievement... Not everyone can do that... keke)


And when we were sharing our achievements later, we all had a good laugh. When we start to look at things from a different angle, we realised that life is not as bitter or bad as we keep thinking it to be.


I think this is a very good exercise. Especially for me cause I used to always think Im quite a failure as in all my life, I have never excelled in anything, I did not win any medals, my school results were horrible. But after this exercise I realised that hey, im not that bad after all. So I decided to complete this exercise. And if you have the time, try it too!! You will feel different after completing. :)


1 – I can walk
2 – I can talk
3 – I always get ice cream treats from big aunty
4 – mummy’s friends all say that im cute!! They say I look like 林青霞
5 – got my first barbie doll (I can still remember its called day n night barbie)
6 – learnt how to do gongyo (the front part)
7 – I was chosen to play the lead role in my kindergarden graduation play
8 – walked home from school myself
9 – learned how to swim
10 – participated in my school’s story tell competition and got 2nd prize for 3 consecutive years (guessed who was first prize)? / was chosen to play the lead role (princess) in my school play
11 – chosen to be the narrator for my school play (im the only P5 student while the rest are all P6 students)
12 – was my form teacher’s pet (while others have to stand for forgetting to bring their books, I received no punishment)
13 – took part in SEA games opening ceremony performance / took part in chingay procession
14 – I got the most flowers on valentines day in school / My band participated in the SYF outdoor com and we got bronze / went to Sarawak with my band for performance / got into best class
of the level
15 – represented school in inter school chinese recital competition / chosen to host my school’s CNY competition / promoted to play 1st clarinet / got into best class of the level
16 – managed to get net to go after me (yes, we were together once 10 yrs ago... But this is another story by itself) / got my music badge in band / promoted to staff surgent in my band
17 – started my first tution stint / paid for my poly school fees myself / retook my o lvl english and got B3 (from D7 to B3)
18 – bought my first pager with $$ I earned and paid for the bills myself / first and last time I went to a night club (yes, those with gals and mummy one!!)
19 – finished watching jap serial G.T.O in less than 1 week / finished reading 2 comic books in a day
20 – bought my first HP / got my first FT job pay cheque / got my diploma / got full collection of Mc Donalds Hello Kitty
21 – participated in NDP / was cleared for CAT A security / got drunk on Vodka cranberry
22 – 1st time 1 bet world cup and won $$ / got involved with a violent person and I managed to tame him down
23 – did sales and managed to increase sales volume of my company / boss got a personal assistant to help me out
24 – changed job and boss offered to increase my pay by 30% to make me stay / someone committed suicide for me
25 – 2 man fought (I mean real fighting ok) over me at a pub / won free HP by nominating sis in most beautiful mum to be contest / sent my pic to a CLEO contest and got shortlisted but I didn't go for the audition
26 – attended SCS / got into Arete in my first interview / became GC 2 weeks after I decided to do the biz / someone offered to give me $500 just to kiss me / QQ attended SCS / met net again (got him to go after me again) / went Taiwan for POV
27 – getting married / received my first GIVE bonus / sponsored mummy and daddy to POV with sis / EQ attended SCS


So you see, life’s quite good and exciting after all!! :)

Tagged

Oh no... Ive been tagged by Veron... Urm... Being the very sporting me, here goes...


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* At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.



1) I don't know how to ride a bicycle. Ok, laugh at me all you want. Nobody taught me how to ride a bicycle since young and as I grew up, I became more and more hum chee and so I never learnt the skill. Actually I did learnt once. And I managed to ride successfully. But after that one time I didn't practise and so I lost the skill again.


2) I was very quiet, timid and shy as a child. I was so quiet that when I was studying in kindergarden, the principal asked mummy if I was deaf and dumb because I don't talk at all. There was once I dropped my handkerchief and a teacher came into our classroom and asked if anybody has dropped their handkerchief. I recognise that it was my handkerchief but I didn't dare raise my hand or say its mine. In the end the teacher only knew it belongs to me when I started crying.


3) My name is an inspiration from the instrument I used to play. I was from the band and I played the Clarinet. And I was very into the clarinet very much at that time. When I started working, I wanted to get myself a name that is easy to pronounce and call. So I asked my sister what name should I give myself and she said: since you like the clarinet so much, why don't you call yourself clari? I taught the name was nice, and at the same time unique, so that's how I got my name, clari.


4) I used to be a brave little soul. When I was 3, I’d walk around the house in the dark when everyone is asleep. But as I grew up, daddy started renting horror movies and after watching the horror movies, I became a scardey cat. Now I dare not walk in the dark alone.


5) I like the smell of a lighted matchstick. I like to watch the flame on the matchstick fizzle out and the trail of smoke that follows. Which explains why I like to play with match sticks and fire. :)


6) I have a bad habbit of “cracking” my knuckles such that they will make the “cracking” sound that your joints will make when you go for thai massage. I can turn my head and my neck cracks, I can crack my ankles. Hearing the “cracking” gives me a sense of satisfaction.


7) My pet hobby is to help net 挖耳洞. And I get angry when he cleans his ears himself. Hahaha. When I managed to dig out a big piece of ear shit (or whatever you call it, I feel a sense of achievement. Pity my ear doesn't get very dirty very quickly like net.


8) when I was in primary school, I used to do my school work really sloooowly. I am always the last one to hand im my accessments. I can never finish my work on time and always have to bring home to write. I can never finish my art on time as well. Anyway, I sucked at art. Since pri school, all my arts and craft homework are masterpieces of mummy and sis. Most of the time I am only involved in the colouring.

There, 8 things about moi... Who I wanna further tag...

1) Power
2) Liming
3) Sis (I know veron tagged you also... So you MUST do... haha)
4) Lorraine
5) Faith
6) FenFen
7) Grace
8) Everybody reading this now!!!!


Finally done... Phew... Pls don't tag me in future, ok??

parenthood training

Net and I had a taste of parenthood on last sat morning. Mummy has to work that sat and daddy is fetching her there, max and sis are having a rendevous night out at a secret hotel they dun wanna tell us. So Net and I have to take care of Ace while the rest of the family are away.


Ace woke up at 5.30am. Mummy left work at 7. So only ace, net and me were left in the house. Both net and I were tired. But ace was energetic. We tried to rock him, bluff him to sleep but didn't work. In the end we just left him in our room and we slept. I slept on the inner side or the bed that is facing the wall and poor net was on the outside, so ace took his magna doodle and asked net to draw something every 5 mins or so. Or he would take something from the table and pass it to net.


At 9+, daddy came back. And we were relieved, but only for a short while. We were sleeping happily with no disturbance when we were suddenly woken by daddy screaming: EEEEEEE... 大便!! Ace 臭臭!! 快点去找 ah yee!! And I was like “$%^&#^!! Why must look for me?!?!?!” So we were woken up again and daddy insists that I have to wash up ace because he is going marketing and left. So net, me and a smelly ace were left in the house again.


So I had to bring ace to bath and net took off his clothes and diapers. And ace’s shit is damn smelly. And because most of the time he don't really chew his food well, we can see bits of undigested food in his shit. YUCKS!! So it took both of us, both net and I to bathe ace. Basically net was holding on to ace so that he dun run around and I was the one doing the dirty job of wiping the shit away, cleaning his ass. My first time cleaning shit was given to ace... Boo hoo hoo. After bathing him, we changed him and decided to bring him out for some breakfast.


We went to parkway and had BK breakfast. Basically ace was quite 乖 that day. He did not ask us to carry him when we put him down and told him he has to walk and he gladly gave us his hand to 拉拉. Sometimes he even insisted that both of us held his hands when we walk. After breakfast, we bought him to a big pet shop at marine parade and he was happy to see so many fishes and small animals.


ace learning to use the fork n knife...


He will point to the fishes and say: fish
he sees the puppy labrador, he points to the glass and say: dog dog... Woof woof
He sees the rabbit drinking water and he says: rabbit 喝水
He sees the rabbit sleeping and he says: rabbit ooi ooi
He sees the ginue pig and say: cat cat. Meow meow.


Haha. After the pet shop, we passed by a playground with lots of kids playing and so we decided to let him play there for a while. I think ace is very happy to see so many little children he ran here, ran there and shouted. After sometime, we decided it was getting late and time to go home. Once in the car, he slept soundly all the way home. We guessed he must be very tired since he woke up so early and walked so much. But the moment he reached home and I placed him on the mattress, he woke up jumped around again. But by then, daddy, grandma were home so we sort of handed him back to them. Keke.


i am king of the playground!!!


Just a morning with ace and both of us were shagged out. Net told me at night that his arms were aching from carrying ace. Haha. Its really not easy bringing a toddler out cos you have to be very alert and on your toes and make sure u can catch up with them when they suddenly run off. You have to think of ways to entertain them so that they sit quietly on the chair while you eat, you have to make sure they don't fall or get pushed or knocked by other kids while at the playground. Similarly, you also have to make sure that they will not push or knock other kids, or worse, fight with other kids for the swing or something.


And I realised that when I brought ace out, I didn't prepare any extra pampers, I didn't bring any jacket (he was wearing a singlet and we were at a shopping centre and the air con is quite cold. Im not sure if he is cold. But I guess not :p). But all in all I think its good training.


When the 3 of us are walking, net told me that a lot of people looking at us. I told him they must have thought that ace is our son. Net said: but he don't look like me at all mah. me: that's y they look mah!! Kekeke.


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oh ya, HAPPY CHILDREN'S DAY TO ALL WHO THINK YOU ARE STILL YOUNG OUT THERE... ;)

thankfully for POV

If we have not met POV, I would have threw my ring back at him and ran off last night... At least that's what I will do in the past...


But because we understood what is happening is a reflection of our inner self, what we are feeling is to cover our fear, I am able to feel my feelings, and feel his feelings and together, we took a step forward towards interdependence, towards oneness.


Thanks, POV... I know this is god’s way of letting me discover the fear in me so I can heal myself. And I am grateful. :)


And I love you, baby... I re-choose you again, and commit myself to love you unconditionally.

Thanks Zhiqing

Last weekend was Zhiqing’s 2 days POV workshop. During the last POV by Hiromi Senseh, during one of the processes involving a husband and wife, I made a decision that I want to bring daddy and mummy to attend POV. I discussed with sis, and we decided to bring them for Zhiqing’s POV. And we were so glad we did.



the Peng family @ POV....

Daddy and mummy is not what I will term a loving couple. Though i’ve never seen them quarrel before, in these 27 years of my life, I’ve never seen them hold hands, hug or say I love you to each other. When they go out together, usually one of them will walk in front and the other behind.


And during that 2 days POV, for the first time in my life,

I hear daddy calling mummy 老婆

I hear mummy calling daddy 老公

I hear daddy saying “I LOVE YOU” to mummy

I hear mummy saying “I LOVE YOU” back to daddy

I see them holding hands.

I see them hugging each other.



mummy looking very 幸福小女人


I guess sis was just as touched and happy as I am to witness all these. And initially we thought daddy will be bored during the workshop but he looks so happy during the 2 days and even participated in all the activities actively with his small group and buddy.


I am happy. Very happy. The money spent on their course fees is worth every single cent. Thanks, Zhiqing. Both me and sis (read sis’s view of the POV here) are very grateful to you.


You know, its like this...


As children, the best thing you can do to make your parents happy is to lead a happy life. Its not how much we are earning, its not how many degrees we have, its not how high we climbed in our career. At the end of the day, nothing can make our parents more happy knowing their child is happy.


And as parents, the best way to let your children lead a happy life is to be happy!! When we as children see that you are happy, we will be happy too.


So u see, its a cycle.... Children happy --> parents happy --> children happy. So whether you are a parent or a children or both, you know what you should do... :)

W.H.Y

“I need to think why you always make me angry”


I have always been thinking why do I want people to attack me? why do I want people to be angry with me? Why do I want people to make me angry?


Now im thinking why do I want to self attack??


Later.


I need to drown myself in loud music.

updates

I know I haven been updating for the longest time... But I have a good reason to be bz...


I have been bz at work (my project is in a mess), and bz with the preparations for my big day!!


And we have confirmed our banquet location and bridal salon!! Im so happy cos I am so so happy cos I think our ballroom is very pretty with a long long march in and I love the gowns from my bridal salon. Am going to have a gown with a long train so that it’ll look nice with my long march in.


Strange it seems, one week after Jeff’s POV we settled everything (except the ROM location cause waiting for them to get back to me on the food). We filed our marriage notice, found our solemnizer within a mere 5 mins (while I read online that some couples had a hard time finding a solemnizer and some even pre booked their solemnizers about 6 mths to 12 mths before their ROM date!!), settled our banquet location, and settled our bridal package, much to net and my surprise. We only visited 2 bridal salons (bs) and made our decision. Initially both net and I thought that we will visit at least 5 salons in order to make a decision but things just happens so smoothly. R recommended us to 1 of the bs along tanjong pagar. We made appointment with the bs and we reached tanjong pagar early and when I called the bs, the person told me I can take my time and best if I can arrive later. I think she was attending to another customer.


Since we were there early, I saw the bs that I aimed in the bridal magazine. So I told net and sis to take a look there. Happens so that when we entered, sis saw her old friend, the designer for her wedding gown and we began talking. I tried some gowns and we were offered quite a good package. But because we already made appointment with the other BS, we went there to see what they had to offer. Net didn't really like the feel of the BS and we didn't really like their photography. So we went back to the first BS and made our payment. And that's it!! My BS is settled!! And I think we had quite a good deal plus the gowns from our BS is known to be very pretty. :)


Ive been bz with my wedding preparations since aug but no progress at all. And just 1 week after Jeff’s POV, everything is settled. Even what we thought would be the biggest headache was settled in less than 3 hrs. amazing! Reminds me of Veron’s story of how she started Growth Vision. Initially she was undecided whether she wanted to start Growth Vision. But after attending Jeff’s workshop, she made up her mind and settled everything (printed the brochures, found the office, started a corporate account etc) within 3 days. Of course our story cant be compared to hers, but still its amazing how things just goes so smoothly.


So now I am waiting patiently for our hotel to call for our invitation cards and our BS to call for me to choose my ROM dress and to do my gown designing. I am very excited but there is nothing I can do now but wait and start losing weight and looking pretty for my big day and start searching for designs of gowns that I like. :)

anger

why am i feeling anger these few days? but i manage to manage them quite well...
WHY? what is my process??


why do i allow people to say things that makes me unhappy??
why do i allow people to attack me??


==> so i can go into withdrawal again...


going to Steps to Leadership later... maybe i can see some light there... or ask Yanni jie to chou ka... keke

back

im back from a 3D2N trip from bangkok. bangkok is a shopping paradise. despite me telling myself to control my shopping, i still spent about S$250 for the 2 days (effectively) on shopping ALONE. food, transport, accommodation, air tix and massage proudly sponsored by net. :D


some statistics of this bangkok trip...

bought:
11 bandeus
6 cardigens (1 for sis, 1 for mummy)
6 undies
3 necklaces
3 soccer jerseys (1 for ace, 1 for max, 1 for me)
2 belts
1 jacket
1 hair pin
1 pair of slippers
1 hello kitty plush toy (from net)
4 t shirts

walked:
6 hrs non stop at chatuchak market
3 hrs at the wholesale centre outside our hotel
4 hrs at patpong night bazzaar

went for:
2 full body massage
1 foot massage

waited:
2 hrs at bangkok airport. flight was delayed because of technical issues. :(
god knows how many minutes on the roads due to traffic jam. the traffic there is just horrible!! so many times we have the so near yet so far feeling. we already see our destination, but yet we are stuck in the jam.


some interesting incidents...

1st day evening, we took a tuk tuk to siam centre. the tuk tuk driver said he will drive us to this restaurant for us to have our dinner and he will wait for us outside the restaurant and drive us to siam centre after we have eaten. so we went to the restaurant and when we were done, the tuk tuk driver was nowhere to be found. so we left without him. and we haven paid him yet. which means our ride to the restaurant is FREE!! keke.

we ate so much eggs there that we now have phobia of eggs. cause there was nothing much for us to eat at the breakfast buffet, so for the 2 mornings we ate scrambled eggs, sunny side ups and even salted eggs!! i think we are going to swear off eggs for some time.

on our first night dinner, we ordered this dish: fried morning glory. i was expecting it to be the morning glory flower fried, something like the fried zulchini flowers we had at ilido, imagine the disappointment when the fried morning glory turns out to be a plate of char kang kong. i didnt know kang kong is morning glory.

when i shop, i completely forgot that i have to eat, shit and pee. haha.

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i still cant get enough of the massage. i am already planning for our next trip... :)

pictures of the trip will be loaded shortly as i haven d/l the pics into my PC yet...

crazy hp

My phone went gila since last Tuesday.


I was packing my bag to knock off and got a shock when I picked my phone up. For a moment I thought my eyes are playing tricks on me so I turned the phone around and finally realised that the problem is not with my eyes but my phone.


This is what I saw...


did u notice the kitty is upside down??


I got FF to call me and...



**faintz**


Ever since then, the display will either be distorted, total blank, inverted, sideways and even mirror image. Imagine I have to read my smses through the mirror.


Anyway will be getting a phone as a belated birthday present for last year. I am so abundant!! :)

sleepy

How to tell I am sleepy:


FF: dont type so fast, later R will know u r chatting, cause only when u r chatting you will type faster than working.

me: no lor i always type very fast one lor

FF: haha..yes, u type very fast, even when u r sleepy. pen also can drop, can type faster than usually meh?

me: can... just that more typo errors... its a scale, a talent

FF: haha.. now u r sleepy rite? i can see... skill

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took me 3 mins to realized that i used the wrong word, though same pronunciation... haha

1 day to go...

Going 5 days of POV. Starting tomorrow.


Abundance, wealth, miracles, happiness, here I come!! :D

sweetest surprise

Yes!! there are heaps I wanted to update but I have got no time to do so!!


18 July 2007

Mr sum see see knew that I sensed he has something up his sleeves (and he read my blog), so he beat me to it by planning the surprised the day before. And I was really really surprised caused it happened when he picked me up from work at 9pm (I was doing OT, so I was super tired, famished, stressed up and frustrated and the only thing that I can think of is to go have a good dinner and then go home sleep). So I really didn't expect him to pull a stunt on that day.


So... Something that I have been wondering for more than 2 decades of my life finally happened when I least expects it to... That most important few minutes of my life, which will determine how the rest of my life will be... And when I recovered from the shock, excitement and over whelmed, everything is over... :)



my destinee :)


We still had our dinner on Thurs, at IlLido. We were seated at the alfresco dining area, overseeing the sky and the sea. The food was fabulous. Must try the deep fried zulchini flower and their warm chocolate cake. Its heavenly. The best I have ever tasted. The service was good as well. The waiter is very friendly. He commented that I look 22!! Haha! Despite the good food and excellent service, I thought the bill was rather pricey. The whole dinner cost a whooping $250 for the 2 of us. Well, but I guess once a while we must indulge in the finer side of life. :)





this picture dont do justice to the warm chocolate cake at all but the pure thought of the taste makes me salivate... warm chocolate oozing out from the cake... ooohhhhh...


And I thought there will be no more surprises since the cat was out of the bag the day before. But I still had a sweet surprise when he excused himself to go to the gents (and I was wondering if he got stuck in the toilet bowl cos he was away for such a long time) and appeared with his laptop in hand and placed it infront of me, and asked me to click “play”. And a beautiful montage began to play. Keke.



cheers!!


And that, was how we celebrated our monthly anniversary. :)

transformer

Went to watch transformer the movie last sat. Actually I never thought I would wanna catch that show but I have heard rave reviews on the movie, even from ladies!! And that's why I decided to catch the movie. I trust the ladies’ tastes more than the guys cause as long as there are nice cars, pretty hot babes, fighting action, explosion, guys would think it is a good movie. Haha.


And to be honest, the movie is really quite entertaining, and worth spending $9 (cant remember the price for a weekend movie ticket. Haven been paying for my own ticket for a long time. Keke) on it. Though there isnt much story line but for a action pack cartoon turned movie, I think its 2 thumbs up!!


The only thing is I cant tell the autobots from the decepticons. I cant tell which autobot is which. I cant tell which decepticon is which, especially when they have transformed into robots because they all looked the same!! Every time they transformed, the following conversation will take place:

me: is this robot good or bad??
net: bad
me: orh. How do you tell?
net: you look at their eyes.
me: where got eyes??


After Nth time of asking him the same question in that short 2.5 hrs, net finally said: I think you need to watch the transformer cartoon series to be able to understand. Next time before we watch any cartoon turned movie shows, you should watch the cartoons first. GRRRRR...

sum see see

Somebody very sum see see lately.

First, ask me for a date for dinner and insist that I must let him know when I am free. When I ask him why must we specially set a date for dinner, he says its because it has been a long time since we have a good meal together, or plan a special dinner together.


When after some time I didn't tell him when I am free, he insists that we must have the dinner this week and asked me to check my programme for Thursday.


When I told him yesterday that there is a training on thurs (which turns out to be a miscom), he asked me: you want to go? when I probed further why he would ask if I wanted to go for the training since he knows that I go for all trainings he revealed that he has made a reservation at the restaurant already. Which got me curious, which restaurant is it? Why need to make reservations? Why so dai gin si?? And he said his friend introduced this restaurant to him, saying its not bad. When I asked which restaurant it is, he said its at sentosa.


Which got me more curious. Why do we need to go all the way to sentosa for a nice dinner? And on a weekday. Why need to go such lengths just for a dinner?? His reply: cause its been such a long time since we plan a good dinner together. The last one was on my birthday which is so many months ago. I really miss us having a good dinner together and we can celebrate our monthly anniversary at the same time too. If we don't go this week, we will both be busy again and will have to wait for a long long time again.


But I guessed he sensed that I wanted to go for the training so he told me: if you want to go for the training then you go lor. I will cancel the reservation. I am alright with it. But I sensed his tone of disappointment so I told him we go ahead with the dinner.


I wonder what he is up to. I smell something up his sleeves. But I might be over sensitive. Maybe he just really wants us to have a quiet nice dinner together. Aiyah, im just not a romantic person lah. Keke. So I shall just go and enjoy my dinner on thurs. :)

guess what is this

saw this painted on the wall of a hip joint... guess what is it??


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its.... tada....

dim sum lah...


i know what u are thinking, you dirty minded people... kekeke :p

Precious Credits

This is probably the cutest, sweetest and most precious credit card...

i wonder if i can apply for it in singapore...

make a difference

I used to think that I am just another girl living on planet earth. I will just spend my life studying, working, most probably get married, have kids, fall sick and die. I never thought that I can make any difference to anyone except probably my parents. With me or without me, there is no difference. Maybe just one less person on earth vying for fresh air with all the rest.


That was about 1.5 years ago.


Then I found what I want to do in life, and found what gives me happiness. I realised that we do not need to do something really great (like donating millions to charities like warren buffet) in order to make a difference to others life. Every small action we take, counts. Like im a vegetarian and I know how meat is not so good for our bodies. I do not need to my friends to become a vegetarian like me, but I share with them what I know and they take lesser meat or least every time they eat with me they eat vegetarian with me as well. With this, its better for their health and also I saved some animals! In this 1.5 years that I have turned vegetarian, I have probably saved god knows how many chickens!! :)


But what happened during last sat during SNC really hit me. Net’s sis came and hug me and she told me: thank you for changing my brother’s life. Without you, he wouldn't have changed and our family wouldn't have changed. And I was really really very very touched and very very happy (of course, during SNC there were other happenings and people that touched me. Those at SNC with me you know who you are).


I didn't do anything much. I brought net to have his iris scan to understand more about his health, he took better care of his health and bought his sister for the iris scan, and she too began to be more aware of her health. Through me, net got to know Dreams Inc and attended SCS, where he found his goals and dreams and in the pay it forward movement, he got his sister to attend SCS and now they are both moving towards their ideal life and their family bonding got closer as well. :)


Im not trying to make myself sound very 伟大, I just wanna say don't belittle ourselves, don't think that we cannot make a difference. We can. By just changing Net’s life, I have helped change his whole family. Its like a rippling effect, it spreads out. So don't think that there is nothing you can do to make this world a better place. Just give help and love to the people around and you are already making a difference, no matter how minute or insignificant the actions may seems now. :)


And this is exactly what I call Pay It Forward. We all just need to Pay It Forward, and really, together, we can make the world a better place to live in.

blah

Don't feel like blogging for the longest time.


Dedicated my last weekend to serving SCS. And during the graduation, when the participant went on stage to thank the Acs, I was so touched I teared. And all the effort I put in for the preparation of the SCS becomes worth it. :)


At the end of the 2.5 days, I lost my voice and was on MC on min and took urgent leave on Tuesday. Partly because I was really tired and mainly cause net was on MC too so we can spend some quiet time together. :) Net actually asked me on mon afternoon: can we go out and have a nice dinner some day? Yeah, this is our schedule. We even need to specially set time aside to go for a nice dinner together. but till now, we still have not set on a date yet. Keke. :p


Attended LZ’s wedding last wed. LZ is a very pretty bride!! Ahhh, makes me wonder how will I look like in my wedding gown. Keke. Back to topic, LZ looks soooooo pretty. Especially when she just finished a detox and lost 5KGs in just 3 weeks. When get married, I’ll make sure I go on a 2 mths intense detox so that I can look my prettiest, most radiant, most glamorous on that day. Hmmmm...**starts day dreaming**



A number of people has been asking me why I call net net in my blog when that is actually not his name. well, net is actually a name we call him all way back when we were in sec school. That was the last syllabus of his name (back then). But over the years I think he changed his name (identity crisis) but I am already so used to calling him ah net already. So net he remains on my blog. And friends who read my blog now know him as net as well. Keke.


And tomorrow is Friday again. Time flies. My brain is out of blogging juice.

some pics from LZ's wedding...


us and the bride



prob the noisiest bunch in office... keke


TXZ and me


this is prob how i will look with short hair... what do you think?? ;)

PMS

Im PMSsy, as certified by EQ.


When im PMSsy, I get irritated and frustrated easily, and usually I tend to be grumpy, anal and anti social. But only the previlegde few have the honour of experiencing my PMS-ness. And without a doubt, the most honoured one is net la. Sometimes I pity him that he has to tahan the grumpy anal clatzz every once a month. A lot of times I know im being demanding and unreasonable when im PMSsy but I just cant helped it. That is why sometimes I thank god that im not a guy and I don't have face a PMSsy gf every once a month. Cos its like everything you do/don't do is wrong. There is nothing you can do, you can only grin and bear with it for the 7 days and shower her with loads of TLC.


But then again when I think further, who says men don't have PMS?


Men’s PMS are worst than ours. At least ours come only once a month, and you can estimate when the storm is coming. For guys, their PMS comes as and when the like and sometimes lasts for more than 7 days. And gals we admit that we are PMSsy and seek understanding from our partners. But when guys having their PMS, they insists that everything is fine and they just keep quiet and sulk at you as if you do them great wrong for as long as their PMS last. Haha.


The above is a PMSsy post. So guys no offence hor!! Haha.


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MNG SALE!!
Up to 50% storewide!!


Went to MNG sale just now during lunch and I already aimed 2 pairs of jeans and a dress and a tank top le. But I do not have time to try them out.
Shall go patronise MNG again later or tomorrow.


God bless my wallet.

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I read an email on how woman rates guys and I think its quite funny. here goes...

In the world of romance, one single rule applies to men:
Make the woman happy.
Do something she likes, and you get points.
Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted.
You don't get any points for doing something she expects.
Sorry, that's the way the game is played.

Here is a guide to the point system:

SIMPLE DUTIES

You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) In the rain (+8) But return with Beer (-5)
You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
It's her pet (-10)

SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS

You stay by her side the entire party (0)
You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)
Named Lolita (-4)
Lolita is a dancer (-6)
Lolita is single and is really beautiful (-80)

HER BIRTHDAY

You forget her birthday (-50000)
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the Colours of your favourite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT

You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION

She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
Any other response (-20)

COMMUNICATION

When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10 ,000)
Now what chance do you have???

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Seriously, I think the above chart is not really comprehensive, so I decided to add some more.

SIMPLE DUTIES

You cook for her (0)
Its her favourite dish (+2)
Its your favourite dish (-2)
And its some fatty oily stuff like pig’s trotters (-50)
And she’s a health freak or vegetarian (-2000)

You wash the dishes (0)
You mop the floor (0)
You do the laundry (0)


HER BIRTHDAY (NOTE: ANNIVESARIES ARE SAME AS BIRTHDAYS)
You are the first to wish her happy birthday (0)
You are not the first to wish her happy birthday (-20)
You get her a present (0)
Its something that she needs and can be used (+30)
Its something she has been eyeing a long time ago (+100)
Its a white elephant of no use (eg. Picture frames, ornamentals, musical boxes, cups) (-20)

You give her a bouquet of flowers (0)
Its 999 stalk of her favourite flower (+50)
Its crysenthumun (-500)
You plan a surprise for her (+50) points subjected to the surprise


A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie she likes and you hate and you fell asleep in the movie (-20)
You brought a jacket along in case she is cold (+10)
You buy the tickets before hand so that you two don't have to queue to buy the tickets (0)
You cry during the touching part of the movie (+15) woman likes SNAG now!!

You hold the door for her (0)
You pull the chair for her (0)

You waited 15 mins for her to arrive without getting pissed (0)
You waited 30 mins for her to arrive without getting pissed (+2)
You waited 1 hour for her to arrive without getting pissed (+8)
You waited 2 hours for her to arrive without getting pissed (+15)

She waited for you 5 mins to arrive (-200)


ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION (THIS APPLIES WHEN SHE IS PMSSY AS WELL. YOU LOSE POINTS NO MATTER WHAT)
You say: its ok, I love you even if you are fat (-500)


COMMUNICATION
You listen for 5 minutes and interrupt her with your own problems (-300)
You roll your eyes and ask: whats the problem?? (-500)
You offer advices and tell her what she should do (-200)
You bring her out for an all expenses shopping trip to cheer her up AFTER you listen to her problem with a concerned expression, for as long as she speaks without falling asleep (+5000)

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That's all I can think of at the time being. Of course there are lots more but I will b blogging till tomorrow if I continue. So... GOOD LUCK, guys!!

time to change

I know its time to change my phone when I just charged it the day before and the battery goes flat the following morning.

I think its GOD’s subtle way of telling me to change my hp before the GST increase, to save some moolah.


p/s: i just found a sponsor for my new hp. keke :p

politics

From my 7 years of working experience, I learnt one thing.


The people who says “I don't like office politics” are usually the ones who plays the most politics.


The people who says “ I don't like to bad mouth people” are usually the ones who throws the most knives on your back. Sometimes after throwing knives, they will say: Im not trying to bad mouth this person.


The people who says “I don't care about other stuff, I just do my own things” are usually the ones who really just do their own work ONLY. Any teeny weeny stuff that is out of their job scope, they will tai chi away.


Don't say aunty clatzz never warn you hor. Now let me go apply some plaster on my back and do an extensive forgiveness exercise.

games

Played taboo and twister over the weekend at EQ’s b day celebration.


Its the first time I played these 2 games and we had a lot of fun.


Twister is a good game for pilates and yoga. We were in the most awkward positions. There was a game where most of the time I was facing QQ’s butt and my thighs ache from squatting too much in weird positions. I think EQ’s abs got more toned after the game cos she was is this crunch position. We even placed a cup of water on her abs and the cup did not overturn. hahaha.


Taboo is like a charade game, where you have to let your team mates guess a certain word but there are some taboo words that you cannot mention. Example, if the word you want them to guess is orange, you cannot mention the words: apple, fruit, colour etc. but when you play with a bunch of crazy people like us, sometimes you get the most unexpected answers.


Some of the most classic answers...

The word: mona lisa

The clues: a woman, a piece of art, any part of the room you go, she will smile at you

The guess: siao char bor

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The word: basket

The clues: sometimes when you want to scold bastard but you don't want to, you say...

The guess: chee bye

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The word: facial

The clues (the person giving the clue is EQ... Keke): something that I need (pointing to face)

The guess: man / good sex

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Muahaha. These are the lame answers you get when you play taboo with lame people. (opps :x) I think other than the games, the other highlight of the day was EQ performing magic. Its amazing and she’s really good at it man. Ask her to show you next time you see her. Its really magic.


Lastly, happy belated birthday, sis!! Its belated cause I have no time to blog since sat till now lah. Though you are already 27 (3 more years to 30), but you still look 21 to me (kekeke)!! You are the best, and I love you always!! Muacks!!

adiddas

i think i should become an adiddas VIP member or fan club or something... lately i bought so many adiddas stuff...


first a pink addidas cap


my lucky pink cap. i wore it to buy 4D and won!!


then a very pretty pink and white sling bag but sadly its not for me. keke. its for liming. but the bag is really very pretty. am fighting the temptation to get one for myself. keke.


stole this pic from Liming's blog... keke... very nice hor... i got good taste... wahahaha...


then 2 pairs of addidas sneakers...



bought the bottom pink slip in last week cos i wanted to have a pair of sneakers that is comfy and at the same time not fully covered (i dont like the feeling of my feet sweating) to wear to POV... initially also thought that if i bought this pair of shoes, mummy can bring it with her to her australia trip. but she said that slip ons are difficult to walk in especially when they go tracking. so she wanted to buy a pair of sneakers and we went shopping yesterday.


and we saw the other the white with purple strips one... it is very nice cause the white part is actually a bit glittery. mummy likes it. i like it too. so i bought it for her as a gift for her australia trip...


both shoes very nice hor... not to mention my track shoes also adiddas one. i must say the adiddas design is improving. everytime i walk into their store, there will be something that catches my eye.


will addidas give me some advertising fee or maybe some $500 cash voucher?? keke...

arcade

Last sat net and I were at CWP and upon getting out of the car park, we saw timezone amusement centre. So I told net, lets go play arcade games later. So after dinner, we decided to go to the arcade to take a look.


I am not a fan of arcade games and the only games I know how to play are bomber man, puzzle fighter and shooting games. But since there is nothing much to do at CWP so we decided to play some arcade. Must always do different activities so that life will not be boring. Anyway, I was surprised when net told me he don't play arcade games as well. I tot ah bengs like him like to 打 game one. Keke.


We played time crisis (shooting game) and im a better shooter than net ok!! But he beat me at daytona and bike riding. Keke.


Anyway, we saw this game machine which is attracting a lot of crowd so we decided to go join the crowd. It was a sweets machine... There are lots of sweets going round and round and you can scoop the sweets up and drop them on a platform which will push the sweets down to the bottom, and all sweets that dropped down to the bottom will be yours. I always tot such games are bo liao games but seems that that sweet machine is attracting a lot of attention and a lot of people are playing it. Me and net don't understand. Want sweets go and buy lah why waste money on the game machine? And there is a grand prize (a mickey mouse plush toy) which is not nice at all!!! Me and net were thinking for the longest time what is so fun with that machine? And the people playing are all adults. One aunty played till she won the ugly plush toy and she had a whole big red plastic bag of sweets. :s


Till now we still don't understand what is so fun about winning sweets. Anyone care to enlighten??

la sup jiat

lately, the most unfortunate events have to happen on my soup. both times, my soup turned non vegetarian. :(


1st incident was last friday, i found a worm in my soup. yucks!! the first thing i said: wa lau, my soup isnt vegetarian anymore.


next was last sat, i was happily savouring my soup at home when ace suddenly took my wallet and did a slam dunk into my soup, like how we dunk our oreos into our milk. i was very very angry and scolded ace: wah lau, ace!! ah yee still want to drink my soup one leh. and so the soup turned non vegen as well cos mine is a leather wallet.


so what did i do on both occasions?? well, i continue to drink my soup anyway. haha... as the hokkien saying goes: la sup jiat, la sup dua!! haha...